This is a hashtag we’re pretty passionate about. Like uneaten chocolate in the house, we just can’t leave it alone.
While we respect a bride’s choice not to give a speech (it’s just not some people’s bag) the stats just don’t add up. We just don’t believe blokes naturally like public speaking so much more than us girls. And we certainly don’t buy into the idea that three blokes are automatically the best choice to put pride of place on the wedding mic.
A wedding speech is a wonderful thing. It’s one of life’s special moments. It’s eight minutes, a thousand words, that captures the love, the craziness, the hope and the excitement of a couple getting hitched. As well as celebrating the couple, it celebrates the people who will support them throughout their marriage.
These days, there’s loads of bride speech examples that prove they’re a great idea – so why are so many women still throwing the opportunity away? Quite frankly we reckon more brides would LOVE giving a speech if only they actually considered it.
Speechy's Bride Speech
We’re passionate about #thisbridewill because we know giving a bride’s speech is rather awesome.
I gave a bride’s speech when I got hitched back in 2014. I’d been desperate to get married for ages (terrible feminist) so when he (finally) proposed I was relieved to discover he was also keen to ‘get on with it’. We didn’t want to bankrupt ourselves or get overly stressed about the whole thing (though it’s impossible not to be stressed about table planning) but I wanted to make it really personal, a bit different and a right good bash for our friends and family.
Sadly I’m not one of those Pinterest brides and the thought of handcrafting bunting was not for me. Instead I knew the one thing I could offer our guests was, well, words.
It’s not often you get the chance to tell your friends, family or even your partner how much you love them. Certainly not when you’re sober. And generally not in any thought-through or considered way.
I wanted to make people feel blooming brilliant. I wanted my speech to be an audial cuddle; one of life’s special moments. I wanted it to be funny but I also wanted it to have heart. I probably spent a few weeks thinking about it and a couple of days writing it. Not much really in the scale of wedding planning. Still, for me, the speeches became the epicentre of the day.
The theme of the speech played with the idea Roger was a bit of a wannabe hippy (you know, the middle class sort who still shops in Waitrose). I set up the notion that by marrying him I was essentially joining a commune and all the guests were invited too!
I felt like I made sure that every guest, everyone I loved, knew how much it meant to me for them to be there. I also felt a bit like a rock star… yes, I was nervous when I delivered the speech but giving a bride’s speech is still (rather oddly) unusual which makes it kinda cool. You get a bit of kudos and you get to stand up & show off your frock again. It’s really a no-brainer.
On the day, my mum also gave a short speech (my dad had passed away a few years previously) and Roger’s sister gave the best, rather ‘edgy’, speech of the evening (don’t think the grans got the penis reference luckily). Still, Roger (the groom) didn’t feel too bad about the girls stealing the show. I kindly let him announce I was three months pregnant in his speech which was a surprise to most of the guests. And yes, the bump was a girl so it really was girl-power at it’s best I guess.
The Bride Speech Revolution
So why are we so comfortable letting the men ‘speak on behalf of us’ on our wedding days? Why are women still cool with letting our grooms bask in all the speech glory while we stay mute? And crucially, is it fair that he gets to start stacking up the in-law brownie points with his speech when we have to be on our best behaviour for the next few years and beyond?
Yes, there’s all the other wedding ‘to dos’ to think about but we reckon (acknowledging a s-load of bias here) a speech is one of the most important.
And it’s not just us who thinks so….
- The ambassadors of clever thinking – The Pool – have something to say about it.
- Afua Hirsch reckons brides give better speeches
- Lucy Jenkins was a bride who did – and she doesn’t even like public speaking!
Of course we’d love to hear from more brides who have, or are considering, giving a speech. Any tips or advice we can share – the better! For more of our bride speech examples and ideas – check out our Bride Advice page. Hope it helps ladies!
Prepare to rock the mic.