Traditionally the wedding speech running order was the father of the bride, the groom and the best man. Three blokes and only one of them was meant to be funny.
In a world where we have same sex marriages, more diverse family set ups, people getting married later in life and, who would believe it, women who are funny – we don’t agree.
The traditional etiquette can work a treat but how about the bride in addition to the groom? Perhaps grandpa of the bride tells good stories or maybe the groom’s daughter? We also find the mother of the groom generally has a lot to say.
That said, you don’t really want more than four people giving a speech (though a few toasts between courses can be a welcome addition).
We wouldn’t recommend ‘dropping’ a traditional speaker unless you know they’d appreciate being ‘let off the hook’ but encouraging them to keep it ‘short and sweet’ is perfectly acceptable.
We like this quote from George Davidson (etiquette dude) ‘whatever is appropriate for a particular marriage or partnership in particular circumstances is always the right option’. In Speechy terms, ‘do what you want without making anyone cry’.