How to nail your best man speech

Over the last couple of decades, best men speeches have become OTT, clichéd and generally a bit embarrassing (for the best man, not the groom ironically). Poor quality templates, the rise of Powerpoint and Googled gags are all partly to blame.

The thing is, writing a great best man speech is pretty simple. Granted, the Speechy team are BBC scriptwriters by trade, so we’ve got a head-start. After writing hundreds of wedding speeches for best men around the world, we know the modern speech rules and the writing tips that will put your speech into the premier league. Exploit our advice.

*Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out our best man speech template or bespoke speech writing service. Yes, we’ll slog it out so you can concentrate (or recover from?) the stag do. 

Best man speech etiquette

Don’t get laden down by old-school etiquette. Our Speechy rules come with High Street Gent approval. 

1 – FOCUS – The focus of the speech should be a witty description of the groom. You want lots of laughs, but your speech also needs to be a thoughtful acknowledgement of a friendship. Find the character traits that his friends & family will recognise as truly ‘him’ – his photographic memory of the Nando’s menu, his unusually short T-Rex arms – yes, it might seem like you’re taking the mick, but that’s how blokes show they care. 

2 – BRIDE The best man must compliment the bride, and it helps if this sounds sincere. If you don’t know her well, do a bit of research so you can say more than the usual platitudes. Can she put up a tent better than her husband? Has she turned him into a quinoa fan? Be original but remember one cliche is a must; all brides look beautiful. 

3 – TELEGRAMS – Speak to the groom about what he wants to do about ‘the telegrams’ but try to avoid them if you can (generally they’re not very funny and, in the world of Skype & text, a bit pointless).

4 – BRIDESMAIDS – Some best men like to compliment the bridesmaids, but it’s the groom’s job. Your choice really, but keep it short if you do.

5 – TOAST – According to Debrett’s the best man speech usually includes a toast to ‘Mr and Mrs [newlywed’s Surname] and might announce the cutting of the cake. At Speechy we prefer to find a unique way to toast the newly-hitched- even if it’s just to ‘the coolest couple this side of the Hog’s Head’.

The 5 rules to writing a great best man’s speech

Finding Your Funny

So we all know this is how you’ll be judged. Here are the basic rules.

1- AVOID WEDDING ‘JOKES’ Being funny isn’t about finding good jokes on the internet. Humour comes from real life, so don’t look anywhere else for your inspiration. You’ve got a ready-made character that you can play with, and even if the groom is on the straight and boring side, we guarantee there will be fun to be had. Yes, it’s more effort to create original humour, but it’s not that complicated. There’s never an excuse for jokes about honeymoons in Bangor.

2 – IT’S FUNNY BECAUSE IT’S TRUE – Start by thinking about the things that make the groom unique. Everyone’s a nut-job in their own way, so what traits will his friends and family will recognise as truly ‘him’. Ask yourself lots of questions – what’s his worst habit (wearing skinny jeans), what’s his guilty pleasures (Dire Straits), what might he love more than his bride (Abdul’s kebabs) etc. Once you have good content to play with, the comedy will be much easier to find.

3 – CREATE A CHARACTER – Imagine the groom was the central character in a sitcom. What type of person would he be? The health freak who transforms into a kebab-eating monster after a pint? The workaholic engineer who still calls on his elderly dad to help him with Ikea flatpack? The family man who has a secret life in his shed? Once you find a basic premise, use anecdotes can help build on the character you’ve created.

4 – CALL IN HELP – Email mates to provide good anecdotes. Parents can often provide some cracking comedy (remember there’s rarely a father of the groom speech, so there’s decades worth of untapped material there). It’s also worth seeing if the bride has any little insights into what living with the groom is actually like, and what she hopes he’ll improve on over the years!

5 – KEEP IT SIMPLE – Good writing is all you need for a great speech. Powerpoint and props can often get in the way and stress you out. Keep your speech short and your jokes punchy.

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  • Best Man Template


    Speechy’s Best Man Speech Template is the ultimate DIY Speech Kit on the market.

    It comes with a Content-Creator (guaranteed to extract brilliant material from even the most uninspired) and a choice of three speeches that our team have crafted for you to simply pick your favourite and then personalise.

    Fun, clever and guaranteed to put a smile on your mate’s face.

    Further details below. Enjoy!

  • Bespoke Speech


    Commission the Speechy wordsmiths to craft a bespoke (and rather brilliant) wedding speech for you. 

    Buy today and we’ll get the ball rolling.

    Please ensure you’ve booked your speech into our calendar before purchasing. Call us on 07971 225 245 if you haven’t already.

    More details below.

  • Speech Review Service


    Purchase a Wedding Speech Review and the Speechy wordsmiths will ensure it’s a speech to remember for all the right reasons. 

    Once purchased, simply upload your speech when prompted and our experts will ensure it passes all the etiquette and story-telling tests. We’ll also rewrite any sections that we feel are lacking and ensure your speech is one you can’t wait to deliver.

    Your ‘Reviewed Speech’ will be emailed to you within 48 hours of purchase.

    Further detail can be found below.

  • Delivery Masterclass


    Deliver Your Speech Like a Pro with our Speechy Delivery Masterclass

    Wedding speech delivery is just as important as writing a great speech. As ex BBC TV directors, we’re trained to get the best out of you and teach you the tricks of the presenting trade. 

    The Masterclass is a one-to-one Skype call with one of the Speechy team that will take between 45 and 60 mins. We’ve worked with numerous celebrities and countless comedians as part of our TV career helping them to get into their comfort zone and deliver the goods and, with a few simple tips, we guarantee you will too! 

    We’ll ask you to present your speech before giving you feedback & presenting tips, and then get keep on rehearsing it until we feel you’ve got it. You’ll inevitably see immediate an improvement but we’ll also send you a personalised email with everything you need practise and remember on the day. It’s basically The Cheat’s Guide to Nailing It. 

    Once purchased, we’ll be in touch to set up the Masterclass Skype call or you can call us in advance to check our available time-slots.

Best Man Speech - Do's and Don'ts


Check with the groom – anything he wants you to do (other than not abusing him)? Anything he’d like you not to mention?!? 

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back, promise yourself you’ll do something about your gut and spot where your speech can be improved.

Prepare to deliver – Make sure the groom has checked the acoustics of the venue and ordered a mic if necessary. On the day, pretend to be confident. Make eye contact and remember to smile. It’s scientifically proven to be infectious, and those scientists know stuff.

Talk slower than feels natural – It’s what those authoritative people do to make themselves seem more intelligent.

Feel free to use smart quotes – But make sure you credit the author or someone else will! Check out our QuotInspiration guide. 


Thank anyone – It’s not your day, and it’s not your job.

Ignore the feedback of friends – It’s always worth testing your speech out on a mate, but this also means you have to listen to them. If they don’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day.

Talk over laughter – You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until the guests have settled down before continuing with your speech

Resort to ‘in-jokes’- Remember there are grannies out there. And a lot of people who weren’t on the Stag Do and won’t find the story about Tika the waitress and her hairy chicken quite so funny.  

Mention exes – Even if you have a wealth of material, sorry, the rule still applies. Don’t mention exes.

Be afraid to use cue cards – Try to memorise the speech but don’t be scared to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).

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