How to nail your best man speech

Ever had to sit through a really bad best man speech? Or just an average boring one? Chances are you have.

Best men speeches have become a bit cliched over the last decade, especially with the amount of poor quality templates knocking around online. Luckily you’ve landed here; home of the Speechy scriptwriters (BBC trained the lot of us). We want to teach people how to write blooming brilliant speeches; ones that will be remembered for all the right reasons (and not because it went on for thirty minutes, contained three jokes and got the bride’s mum heckling -true story).

Best man speech etiquette

We know, we know. It’s dull but there’s a few ‘to dos’ with every best man speech. Luckily you’ve got the least to worry about when it comes to traditional etiquette.

Here’s the basic structure of a best man speech…

  • The focus should be a witty description of the groom. The main aim is to get lots of laughs but here’s the tricky bit, it should also be a thoughtful acknowledgement of a friendship.
  • Of course the best man must compliment the bride. It helps if this sounds sincere.
  • Traditionally the best man reads out messages from friends and family who can’t attend the wedding but that’s becoming less common. Speak to the groom about what he wants to do but push for these updates to be done privately (generally they’re not very funny).
  • Some best men like to compliment the bridesmaids but it’s actually the groom’s job. Your choice really, but keep it short if you do.
  • According to Debretts the best man speech usually includes a toast to ‘Mr and Mrs [newlywed’s Surname]’ and might announce the cutting of the cake. At Speechy we prefer to find a unique way to toast the newly-hitched– even if it’s just to ‘the coolest couple this side of the Hog’s Head’.

The 5 rules to writing a great best man’s speech

Best Man Speech - Do's and Don'ts


Check with the groom – anything he wants you to do (other than not abusing him)?

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back, promise yourself you’ll do something about your paunch and spot where your speech can be improved.

Prepare to deliver – Make sure the groom has checked the acoustics of the venue and ordered a mic if necessary (you wouldn’t believe how many speeches are ruined simply because the guests can’t hear them). On the day, pretend to be confident. Make eye contact and remember to smile. It’s scientifically proven to be infectious and those scientists know stuff.

Talk slower than feels natural – It’s what those authoritative people do to make themselves seem more intelligent.


Thank anyone – It’s not your day and it’s not your job.

Ignore the feedback of friends – It’s always worth testing your speech out on a mate but this also means you have to listen to them. If they don’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day.

Talk over laughter – You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.

Be afraid to use cue cards – Try to memorise the speech but don’t be afraid to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).

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Speechy is here to help best men in need. As professional TV scriptwriters we’re programmed to entertain and get the best out of people. We sweat the hard stuff so you don’t have to.

Contact us to have a natter about how we can help.

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