How to nail your bride speech

Like a free bar stocked with Bollinger, a bride speech is guaranteed to get the guests excited.

It’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to shout about how goddamn gorgeous your fella is without seeming a bit smug, and a chance to thank your friends and family for a lifetime of love.

The Speechy team are TV scriptwriters by trade, and after writing speeches for hundreds of amazing brides around the world, we know the tips and techniques that ensure your speech adds an awesome moment to your day.

*Of course, if you want more than ‘advice’, check out our fantastic bride speech template or find out about our bespoke speech writing service. We’d love to craft you a speech to remember.

Bride Speech - Surprise or Scheduled?

The first thing to think about is whether you want to surprise your groom or schedule your speech into the day.

The surprise speech is always nice but get a sense of the groom’s thank yous so that you don’t needlessly echo each other. Also, keep an eye on your duration. If there’s no check on the length of the groom speech, you need to keep yours relatively concise. 

If the groom knows you’re giving a speech, you can divvy out the thank yous (and check that you aren’t repeating the classic stories). Sure, you’ll each want to thank both sets of parents, but only one of you gets to tell the story where you got locked in the pub. You can also agree to contain both speeches to about six minutes.

Bride Speech Etiquette

A bride speech is the Burger King of speeches – you get to say what you want, how you want.

But (massive klaxon warning) make sure you’re not left with the ‘scraps of speeches’. Check out Confetti’s Guide to Etiquette to get a sense of who’s doing what so you don’t find yourself repeating the same thank yous as your husband and mumbling ‘again’ far too often. Stake your claim on the good stuff.

The role of your speech is to

  • make all the guests feel welcome
  • give your thanks to the important people
  • make your man feel properly loved

People to thank

  • your parents
  • your in-laws
  • the best man & ushers (depending on the groom’s speech)
  • your maid of honour & bridesmaids
  • any children you and your groom already have

Of course, there may be others you want to mention but resist the urge to read out half the guest list. Nothing kills off a speech quicker than a tedious thank you list.

If you’re planning on giving thank you gifts to any of the wedding party, we recommend saying you’ll be ‘personally handing them out later’ so it doesn’t disrupt the flow of your speech and the guests aren’t tempted to start checking their WhatsApp messages.

The Classic Bride Trap

We cannot stress this strongly enough… A bride’s speech should not be more romantic or less humorous than the groom’s.

If you’re the naturally soppy sort, you might be hoping your bride’s speech is an opportunity to get all dewy-eyed and leave singletons weeping at the glory of the love you have found. It’s not.

OTT declarations of love can still be cringey even in a wedding context. If you can’t imagine reading your speech to your mates down the pub without them wanting to throw things at you, you’ve probably pitched it wrong.

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  • Bride Speech Template


    Speechy’s Bride Speech Template will not only help you write a wonderful wedding speech, it will turn you into a natural storyteller!

    It comes with a Content-Creator (guaranteed to extract brilliant material from even the most uninspired) and a choice of three speeches that our team have crafted for you to simply pick your favourite and then personalise.

    Fun, clever and possibly the best wedding investment you could make.

    Further details below. Enjoy!

  • Bespoke Speech


    Commission the Speechy wordsmiths to craft a bespoke (and rather brilliant) wedding speech for you. 

    Buy today and we’ll get the ball rolling.

    Please ensure you’ve booked your speech into our calendar before purchasing. Call us on 07971 225 245 if you haven’t already.

    More details below.

  • Speech Review Service


    Purchase a Wedding Speech Review and the Speechy wordsmiths will ensure it’s a speech to remember for all the right reasons. 

    Once purchased, simply upload your speech when prompted and our experts will ensure it passes all the etiquette and story-telling tests. We’ll also rewrite any sections that we feel are lacking and ensure your speech is one you can’t wait to deliver.

    Your ‘Reviewed Speech’ will be emailed to you within 48 hours of purchase.

    Further detail can be found below.

  • Delivery Masterclass


    Deliver Your Speech Like a Pro with our Speechy Delivery Masterclass

    Wedding speech delivery is just as important as writing a great speech. As ex BBC TV directors, we’re trained to get the best out of you and teach you the tricks of the presenting trade. 

    The Masterclass is a one-to-one Skype call with one of the Speechy team that will take between 45 and 60 mins. We’ve worked with numerous celebrities and countless comedians as part of our TV career helping them to get into their comfort zone and deliver the goods and, with a few simple tips, we guarantee you will too! 

    We’ll ask you to present your speech before giving you feedback & presenting tips, and then get keep on rehearsing it until we feel you’ve got it. You’ll inevitably see immediate an improvement but we’ll also send you a personalised email with everything you need practise and remember on the day. It’s basically The Cheat’s Guide to Nailing It. 

    Once purchased, we’ll be in touch to set up the Masterclass Skype call or you can call us in advance to check our available time-slots.

Bride Speech - Do's and Don'ts


Keep it a secret – it’s more fun that way

Make the thanks yous meaningful – Don’t just talk about what people have contributed to the wedding, thank them for what they’ve contributed to your life (even if it is just an appreciation on malt whiskeys). Keep each thank you less than 50 words.

Toast something meaningful -ideally something that will make your husband and guests smile – maybe ‘a lifetime of dancing on tables’

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back and spot where your speech can be improved.


Thank the caterers or the venue – It’s unnecessary.

‘Explain’ why you’re giving a bride speech  – Yes, you might always have the last word, but these days a bride speech doesn’t need any justification.

Show off – Yes, it’s your special day. But no, you’re not allowed to show off about it. Be conscious there are single girls out there. Be self-deprecating & be humble. Don’t do a Paltrow. Instead, channel Jennifer Aniston and be the rocking hot girl who everyone still likes.

Be afraid to use cue cards – Try to memorise the speech, but don’t be scared to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).

The 5 rules to writing a great bride’s speech

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