The brother of the groom speech is the ultimate best man speech.
You’ve grown up with him, lived with him, played with him, and now the big day is here. The day you get to make fun of him in front of all your family and friends.
Of course, this isn’t strictly true. You have to also pay tribute to what a great guy he is blah blah blah. But, mostly, it’s about roasting him.
Follow Speechy’s expert advice, and you’ll create a speech that’s memorable for all the right reasons.
Why Is A Brother of The Groom Speech Special?
It’s all about the ammunition you have. Yes, you’re the best man, so you inevitably have the drunken stories and questionable fashion sense to bring up. But you’ve also got the childhood anecdotes; the ones that will put the father of the bride’s potty training tales to shame.
Even if you live in different countries these days, you have decade’s worth of evidence on this dude, so your first job is to collect it.
Get your folks involved. Shove dad up the loft and get out the old report cards. Have a brainstorm with your mates over some Magners. Find his beloved old teddy. Consider yourself a Scandi-noir detective hunting down the most embarrassing anecdotes known to man.
Of course, ask yourself some probing questions…Did you grow up squabbling or were you always as thick as thieves? Was one of you ALWAYS the favourite growing up? Or who was it who got all the grubby hand-me-downs? Who was always the funnier / smarter / sportier brother? It’s time to dish the dirt and get your own back.
Of course, it’s not only an opportunity to tease your brother, feel free to also make fun of your parents and the way they brought you both up. Remember how they wouldn’t let you watch Hollyoaks or eat sugar after 4 pm? ‘Well, mum, there’s a three-tier cake over there with our name on it, and YOU can’t do anything about if we choose to shove our faces in it later.’
Brother of the Groom Etiquette
As a glorified, best man speech, there aren’t any of the boring, administrative speech things for you to concern yourself with.
The groom or father-of-the-bride will deal with thanking people for coming and thanking individual members of the wedding party. Yours is PURELY about the fun. You have almost free-rein to write the perfect, ten-minute toast to your brother.
Ignore the idea of ‘telegrams’ if you can. What can’t be said by text isn’t worth saying really.