Nail your father of the bride speech

In our eyes, the father of the bride speech is one of the wedding’s highlights.

As the father of the bride you’re the wedding’s warm up man, the person in charge of making everyone feel welcome and your daughter feel special. You have the power to get everyone in the room laughing & kick start the newlyweds’ union with a bang, or equally, bore everyone to tears with tales of your daughter’s flute playing skills in primary school.

Following a few key pieces of Speechy advice guarantees you’ll deliver a speech which might just create a lifelong memory.

Father of the bride speech etiquette

Don’t get tied down with traditional speech etiquette when you’re writing your father of the bride speech. As long as you’re polite and loving, no one really cares if you address them as ‘ladies and gentlemen’ (in fact it seems overly formal if you do). 

The biggest trap fathers fall into is thinking they need to thank people. Actually that’s the groom’s job. That said, it pays to mention your daughter’s new in-laws and even if you’re separated, you should acknowledge the role the bride’s mother has had in her upbringing.

Do NOT get sucked into thanking your friends or family members who’ve travelled far. It’s not your day and, quite frankly, too many thank yous becomes boring. Remember the bridesmaids will be thanked by the groom (and maybe even the best man) so keep your gratitude succinct (and dance with them later).

Father of the bride speech structure

We like tearing up the rule book but knowing the basic structure of a father of the bride speech makes sense. Here’s the idea…

  1. Welcome all the guests and get them laughing straight away
  2. Tell some funny anecdotes from your daughter’s childhood (ideally illustrating her personality today)
  3. Pay tribute to the woman she now is. The good stuff, the lovely stuff, but most importantly, the funny
  4. Recount meeting the groom for the first time and how you’ve grown to love him and his family (it helps if there’s an element of truth in there but it’s not essential)
  5. You may want to offer some funny or heart-warming advice to the married couple. Nothing too profound or you’re at risk of sounding pompous.
  6. Conclude your speech with a toast to the married couple. Traditionally it’s to the health and happiness of the happy couple’ but we can do better than that.

5 rules to writing a great father of the bride speech

Father of the Bride Speech - Do's and Don'ts


Start writing your speech – Obvious but honestly, ideas will keep popping into your head once you start.

Get help– Exploit the family. Organise a catch up and think about all the funny things your daughter has done over the years. Feel free to mention the ‘family summit’ in the speech.

Feel free to use clever quotes – Ensure you credit the author or someone else will!

Toast something meaningful – Ideally it should reflect the personality of the newlyweds and the theme of your speech. One of the fathers of the bride we worked with wished his daughter and her husband ‘the passion of Burton and Taylor, the longevity of Elizabeth and Philip and the bank balance of Kanye and Kim’.

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back, promise yourself you’ll do something about your paunch and spot where your speech can be improved.people do


Hint at any financial contribution you’ve made towards the wedding – May embarrass the newlyweds and it’s up to them to mention it.

Talk about your daughter’s exes – Again, that embarrassment thing. Even if you know your daughter would be cool with it, her husband might not be.

Resort to cliches – Really? You want to waste time telling us how little she slept as a newborn?

Ignore the feedback of your wife – It’s always worth testing your speech out on your wife but the important bit is, listen to her. If she doesn’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day.

Talk over laughter – You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.

Father of the Bride Speech Help

Speechy is here to help fathers of the bride in need. As professional TV scriptwriters we’re programmed to entertain and get the best out of people. We sweat the hard stuff so you don’t have to.

Contact us if you want a natter about how we could help you craft your father of the bride speech.

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