Nail your wedding speech

Writing a great gay groom speech needs a bit more thought than your straight counterpart. Namely, how do you avoid tedious repetition of the same thank yous?

By following a few key pieces of advice from the Speechy team (BBC trained, celebrity schmoozers and wedding speech revolutionists), your speech is guaranteed to become a little less ordinary. We’re on a mission to rid weddings of boring, cliched and meaningless speeches.

*Of course, if you’re looking for a bit more than ‘advice’, check out our gay groom template or bespoke speech writing service. Yes, we can do the hard work for you!

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Who's Doing What?

The first thing to think about is how you and your groom are going to divide speech duty. It might just be one of you addressing your guests (though it seems like a missed opportunity) or you could both give a speech. The other option is a joint speech (we LOVE em!), and you can find out more about joint speeches here.

Let’s assume you’re both delivering speeches; you’ll need to ensure you’re not doubling up on the thanks or the stories. Sure, you’ll each want to thank both sets of parents (and score brownie points with the in-laws), but only one of you gets to tell the story where you got locked in the pub. Get the wine out and begin the negotiation. 

Also, think about how to schedule the speeches. If you have more than three, consider having one after each course of the wedding dinner or even saving one till the evening do (though that’s a risky strategy if there’s a free bar).

Gay wedding speech etiquette

Don’t get tied down with traditional etiquette. A lot of it is outdated and well, just not fit for a modern wedding.

Tailor your style to fit with the scene you’ve set. Have you invited a lot of older relatives who expect a certain level of decorum or just a dozen of your Pacha amigos who want Jagger Bombs on tap? Maybe you’ve splashed out on a stately manor or gone urban in the Gherkin (see Attitude’s alternative wedding guide if you’re interested in that one) – just make sure your words reflect the wedding you’ve created. 

The thank yous are, of course, important and can ensure a lifetime of love from the in-laws (or years of deep & brooding resentment). The groom traditionally thanks…

  • everyone for coming
  • his parents
  • the in-laws
  • his best man or woman & ushers/bridesmaids

Of course, there may be others you want to mention (children you share or step-children?) but resist the urge to read out half the guest list. Nothing kills off a speech quicker than a tedious thank you list.

The groom traditionally ends his speech with a toast to the bridesmaids, but we think this is a missed opportunity (and you might not have any anyway). Toast something meaningful to you and your groom; something that will get everyone smiling. It could simply be a toast to ‘ a lifetime of dancing on tables’.

The 5 rules to writing a great wedding speech

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    Purchase a Wedding Speech Review and the Speechy wordsmiths will ensure it’s a speech to remember for all the right reasons. 

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    Wedding speech delivery is just as important as writing a great speech. As ex BBC TV directors, we’re trained to get the best out of you and teach you the tricks of the presenting trade. 

    The Masterclass is a one-to-one Skype call with one of the Speechy team that will take between 45 and 60 mins. We’ve worked with numerous celebrities and countless comedians as part of our TV career helping them to get into their comfort zone and deliver the goods and, with a few simple tips, we guarantee you will too! 

    We’ll ask you to present your speech before giving you feedback & presenting tips, and then get keep on rehearsing it until we feel you’ve got it. You’ll inevitably see immediate an improvement but we’ll also send you a personalised email with everything you need practise and remember on the day. It’s basically The Cheat’s Guide to Nailing It. 

    Once purchased, we’ll be in touch to set up the Masterclass Skype call or you can call us in advance to check our available time-slots.

Gay Wedding Speech - Do's and Don'ts

DO

Start writing your speech – Obvious but honestly, ideas will keep popping into your head once you kick off.

Check with your man– Make sure you’re not doubling up if you’re both giving speeches. Who thanks who? Who gets to tell the funniest story?

Make the thanks yous meaningful – Don’t just talk about what people have contributed to the wedding, thank them for what they’ve contributed to your life

Keep the thank yous concise – no one deserves more attention than your husband

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back, promise yourself you’ll do something about your gut and spot where your speech can be improved.

Use witty wedding quotes – Plagiarism ain’t cool but using quotes is a great way to super-charge your speech with romance or humour. Get inspired by our Quote Guide

DON'T

Thank the caterers or the venue – It’s unnecessary.

Resort to cliches – Yes you can thank your in-laws for ‘raising such a wonderful son’ but try to make it personal too. Thank your mother in law for the extra inch added to your waistline since you first sampled her Yorkshire Puddings.

Ignore the feedback of friends – It’s always worth testing your speech out on a mate, but this also means you have to listen to them. If someone doesn’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day.

Talk over laughter – You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.

Get overly soppy – Get the balance right between sweet and just showing off. Leave the pet names at home and keep anything too gushing for the bedroom.

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