Nail your bride speech

The first thing to say is there’s nothing intrinsically special about giving a lesbian wedding speech. Straight or gay – all wedding speeches need to make your guests smile and leave you with a lifelong memory.

Of course there’s not many etiquette books designed for lesbian brides. Count that as a blessing. Etiquette books are guaranteed to turn a good speech bad.

By following a few key pieces of advice from the Speechy scriptwriters (BBC trained, celebrity schmoozers and wedding speech revolutionists) your speech is guaranteed to be both unique and a little bit wonderful. We’re on a mission to rid weddings of boring, cliched and meaningless speeches so follow our advice and you’ll craft a speech less ordinary.*

*Of course, if you’re looking for a bit more hand-holding, check out our lesbian bride speech template or bespoke speech writing service. Yes, we can do the hard work for you!

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Who's going to give a Speech?

The first thing to consider is how you and your bride are going to divide the speech duty. It might just be one of you addressing your guests (though it seems like a missed opportunity) or you could both give a speech. The other option is giving a joint speech (we LOVE em!) and you can find out more about Mrs & Mrs speeches here.

Let’s assume you’re both delivering speeches, you’ll need to ensure you’re not doubling up on the thanks or the stories. Sure, you’ll each want to thank both sets of parents (and score brownie points with the in-laws) but only one of you gets to tell the story about when you got locked in the pub.

You also need to think about how you’re scheduling the speeches – if you have more than three you might want to think about having one after each course of the wedding dinner or even saving one till the evening do (though that’s a risky strategy if there’s a free bar).

Wedding Speech Etiquette

Let’s get this out of the way first. Don’t get tied down with traditional etiquette. A lot of it is outdated and well, just not fit for a gorgeous modern wedding.

Tailor your style to fit in to the scene you’ve set. Have you invited a lot of older relatives who expect a certain level of decorum or just a dozen of your Pacha amigos who expect Jagger Bombs on tap? Are you dressed traditionally or are you a Rock n Roll Bride (if you haven’t decided yet – these sites might help Offbeat BrideRock N Roll BrideEqually WedNouba, Polka Dot Bride Hello May). Whatever style of wedding you opt for, make sure your speech reflects it.    in that one) – just make sure your words reflect the wedding you’ve created. 

The main role of your speech is to

  • make all the guests feel welcome
  • thank the important people
  • sing the praises of the woman you’ve just married

Here’s the people you may want to consider thanking

  • your parents
  • your in-laws
  • your side-kicks for the day – bridesmaids etc

Of course there may be others you want to mention (children you already have ?) but resist the urge to read out half the guest list. Nothing kills off a speech quicker than a tedious thank you list, esp if you’re one of the few guests who doesn’t get a mention.

If you’re planning on giving thank you gifts to any of the wedding party we recommend saying you’ll be ‘personally handing them out later’ so the process doesn’t disrupt the flow of your speech and the guests aren’t tempted to start checking their whatsapp messages.

The 5 rules to writing a great bride’s speech

Wedding Speech - Do's and Don'ts


Make the thanks yous meaningful – Don’t just talk about what people have contributed to the wedding, thank them for what they’ve contributed to your life (even if it is just an appreciation on malt whiskeys). Keep each thank you less than 50 words.

Toast something meaningful – ideally something that will make your bride and guests smile – maybe ‘a lifetime of dancing on tables’

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back and spot where your speech can be improved.

Talk slower than feels natural – It’s what those authoritative people do to make themselves seem more intelligent.


Thank the caterers or the venue – It’s unnecessary.

Talk over laughter – You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.

Get overly soppy – Get the balance right between sweet and just showing off. Leave the pet names at home and keep anything overly gushing for the bedroom.

Be afraid to use cue cards – Try to memorise the speech but don’t be afraid to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).

A Bit About Speechy...

The Speechy team includes James, Heidi, Roger and Claire. Between us, we’ve been included in the Edinburgh TV Festival’s ‘Ones to Watch’ and featured in the BBC Hotlist. During our telly careers, we’ve  worked with people such as Richard Hammond, Sharon Osbourne, Dan Snow, Sandi Toksvig, David Mitchell and Mel Geidroyc. Get us!

These days we’re the go-to experts for wedding speech advice – featuring in wedding bibles such as Rock n Roll Bride or Wedding Ideas Mag, or more mainstream media such as Radio 1 and Radio 2. Even Eamonn Holmes has wanted our advice on how to deliver a speech at his son’s wedding when we were on his show recently.

Of course, we love helping people write amazing speeches and we still get excited when they tell us we’ve added a special moment to their day.

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  • Lesbian Bride Template


    Speechy’s Lesbian Bride Speech Template will not only help you write a wonderful wedding speech, it will turn you into a natural storyteller!

    It comes with a Content-Creator (guaranteed to extract brilliant material from even the most uninspired) and a choice of three speeches that our team have crafted for you to simply pick your favourite and then personalise.

    Fun, clever and possibly the best wedding investment you could make.

    Further details below. Enjoy!

  • Bespoke Speech


    Commission the Speechy wordsmiths to craft a bespoke (and rather brilliant) wedding speech for you. 

    Buy today and we’ll get the ball rolling.

    Please ensure you’ve booked your speech into our calendar before purchasing. Call us on 07971 225 245 if you haven’t already.

    More details below.

  • Speech Review Service


    Purchase a Wedding Speech Review and the Speechy wordsmiths will ensure it’s a speech to remember for all the right reasons. 

    Once purchased, simply upload your speech when prompted and our experts will ensure it passes all the etiquette and story-telling tests. We’ll also rewrite any sections that we feel are lacking and ensure your speech is one you can’t wait to deliver.

    Your ‘Reviewed Speech’ will be emailed to you within 48 hours of purchase.

    Further detail can be found below.

  • Delivery Masterclass


    Deliver Your Speech Like a Pro with our Speechy Delivery Masterclass

    Wedding speech delivery is just as important as writing a great speech. As ex BBC TV directors, we’re trained to get the best out of you and teach you the tricks of the presenting trade. 

    The Masterclass is a one-to-one Skype call with one of the Speechy team that will take between 45 and 60 mins. We’ve worked with numerous celebrities and countless comedians as part of our TV career helping them to get into their comfort zone and deliver the goods and, with a few simple tips, we guarantee you will too! 

    We’ll ask you to present your speech before giving you feedback & presenting tips, and then get keep on rehearsing it until we feel you’ve got it. You’ll inevitably see immediate an improvement but we’ll also send you a personalised email with everything you need practise and remember on the day. It’s basically The Cheat’s Guide to Nailing It. 

    Once purchased, we’ll be in touch to set up the Masterclass Skype call or you can call us in advance to check our available time-slots.

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