Mother of the bride speech

Let’s start by reassuring you; it’s now relatively common to have a mother of the bride speech at weddings these days. Sometimes mums are asked to say a few words because the bride’s father has passed away. Sometimes they’re asked because the bride thinks her mum’s rather wonderful and knows she has a lot to say.

Whatever the reason, take comfort in the fact that all the mothers we’ve worked with have enjoyed giving their speech on the day. As ex-BBC scriptwriters, the Speechy team know the tricks of the writing trade.  Follow our simple mum-of-the-bride advice and write a speech you (and your daughter) will be proud of.

*Or let us do the hard work for you. Check out our mother of the bride speech template or find out about our bespoke speech writing service.

MOTB speech etiquette

This is the bit that gets some mums in a muddle. Relax, you only have two jobs to do; make everyone feel welcome and make your daughter feel loved. 

DON’T GO OVERLY FORMAL – Forget about the traditional speech etiquette, as long as you’re polite and loving, no one cares if you address them as ‘ladies and gentlemen’ (in fact it seems overly formal if you do).

DON’T STEAL THE GROOM’S THUNDER – The biggest trap mothers fall into is thinking they need to thank people. Actually, that’s the groom’s job. That said, it pays to mention your daughter’s new-in laws.

Do NOT get sucked into thanking your friends or family members who’ve travelled far. It’s not your day and, quite frankly, too many thank yous becomes boring. Remember the bridesmaids will be thanked by the groom (and most likely, the best man) so keep it concise if you do!

PREPARE TO BE EMOTIONAL – Of course, if you’re speaking on behalf of a father who’s passed away, then you’ll want to pay tribute to him. Be careful though; you don’t want to turn your speech into a eulogy. Read our advice on how to write a heartfelt tribute to the dearly departed while ensuring your speech remains a joyful one. 

mother of the bride speech

Speech Structure

The structure of a mother of the bride speech is the same as a father of the bride speech. Here’s the idea…

  1. Welcome all the guests and get them laughing straight away
  2. Tell some funny anecdotes from your daughter’s childhood (ideally illustrating qualities that everyone will recognise in her today)
  3. Pay tribute to the woman she is today. The good stuff, the lovely stuff, but most importantly, the funny stuff. 
  4. Recount meeting the groom for the first time and how you’ve grown to love him and his family (it helps if there’s an element of truth in there although it’s not compulsory)
  5. You may want to offer some funny or heart-warming advice to the married couple. Nothing too profound or pompous.
  6. Conclude your speech with a toast to the married couple – traditionally it was to their ‘health and happiness’ but feel free to create something more meaningful to the couple

Tribute to your daughter and son-in-law

TRIBUTE TO YOUR DAUGHTER

This is the heart of the speech but where do you start? How about with a glass of wine and a brainstorm with some other family members? If your daughter has siblings, they’re likely to be a good source of content!

Get out the old photos and ask yourself lots of questions. How did she make you laugh when she was a child? Who was her first teenage crush (always good to compare the groom)? Rather than resorting to clichés about her being a ‘wonderful, funny child’, find the insights and anecdotes that paint a picture.

Of course, as well as the childhood years, talk about the woman your daughter has become. Again, rather than rely on platitudes, think about what makes your daughter unique. Is she a social-media fiend, a tech-head, or a glam girl? Does she love exotic adventures or does she secretly love to knit? Cherish your daughter for exactly who she is – even if she is slightly crazy and still addicted to Haribos.  

TRIBUTE TO YOUR SON-IN-LAW

Yes, it’s definitely worth mentioning the groom too! And try to make this more than a few cursory sentences at the end. Think about why the groom is suited to your daughter. What quirks of hers is he good at tolerating? What guilty pleasures do they share? 

Think about how you two have bonded. What do you like about the groom? Again try to make this tribute jam-packed with unique, honest insights (without alluding to any reservation you may or may not have!)

Your Mother of the Bride Speech - How We Can Help

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  • Mother of the Bride Template

    £39.99

    Speechy’s Mother of the Bride Template is designed to help you write a wonderful wedding speech without you having to worry about it.

    It comes with a Content-Creator (guaranteed to extract brilliant material from even the most uninspired) and a choice of three speeches that our team have crafted for you to simply pick your favourite and then personalise.

    Fun, clever and guaranteed to put a smile on your daughter’s face.

    Further details below. Enjoy!

     

  • Bespoke Speech

    £395.00

    Commission the Speechy wordsmiths to craft a bespoke (and rather brilliant) wedding speech for you. 

    Buy today and we’ll get the ball rolling.

    Please ensure you’ve booked your speech into our calendar before purchasing. Call us on 07971 225 245 if you haven’t already.

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  • Speech Review Service

    £150.00

    Purchase a Wedding Speech Review and the Speechy wordsmiths will ensure it’s a speech to remember for all the right reasons. 

    Once purchased, simply upload your speech when prompted and our experts will ensure it passes all the etiquette and story-telling tests. We’ll also rewrite any sections that we feel are lacking and ensure your speech is one you can’t wait to deliver.

    Your ‘Reviewed Speech’ will be emailed to you within 48 hours of purchase.

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  • Delivery Masterclass

    £150.00

    Deliver Your Speech Like a Pro with our Speechy Delivery Masterclass

    Wedding speech delivery is just as important as writing a great speech. As ex BBC TV directors, we’re trained to get the best out of you and teach you the tricks of the presenting trade. 

    The Masterclass is a one-to-one Skype call with one of the Speechy team that will take between 45 and 60 mins. We’ve worked with numerous celebrities and countless comedians as part of our TV career helping them to get into their comfort zone and deliver the goods and, with a few simple tips, we guarantee you will too! 

    We’ll ask you to present your speech before giving you feedback & presenting tips, and then get keep on rehearsing it until we feel you’ve got it. You’ll inevitably see immediate an improvement but we’ll also send you a personalised email with everything you need practise and remember on the day. It’s basically The Cheat’s Guide to Nailing It. 

    Once purchased, we’ll be in touch to set up the Masterclass Skype call or you can call us in advance to check our available time-slots.

5 mother of the bride speech tips

Mother of the Bride Speech - Do's and Don'ts

DO

Start writing your speech – Obvious but honestly, ideas will keep popping into your head once you start.

Get help – Other family members are a great source of good material. Organise a catch-up and think about all the funny things your daughter has done over the years.

Feel free to use clever quotes – Ensure you credit the author or someone else will!

Toast something meaningful – Ideally it should reflect the personality of the newlyweds and the theme of your speech. One of the fathers we worked with wished his daughter and her husband ‘the passion of Burton and Taylor, the longevity of Elizabeth and Philip and the bank balance of Kanye and Kim’

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back and spot where your speech can be improved.

DON'T

Hint at any financial contribution you’ve made towards the wedding – May embarrass the newlyweds and it’s up to them to mention it.

Talk about your daughter’s exes – Again, that embarrassment thing. Even if you know your daughter would be cool with it, her husband may not be.

Resort to cliches – Really? You want to waste crucial time telling us how little she slept as a newborn?

Talk over laughter. You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.

Be afraid to use cue cards – Try to memorise the speech but don’t be afraid to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).

Don’t take credit for other people’s words – But it’s fine to use some clever quotes if you credit the author. Here’s some Inspiration

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