Mother of the bride speech

We really enjoy writing a good mother of the bride speech but the mums themselves are often our most nervous clients.

Let’s start by reassuring you, it’s no longer unusual to have mothers giving a speech. Sometimes mums are asked to say a few words because the bride’s father has passed away. Sometimes they’re asked so the bride avoids the dad versus step-dad debate. Sometimes, of course, the mother’s asked to speak in addition to the father, simply because the bride thinks she’s wonderful and knows she has a lot to say.

Whatever the reason, take comfort in the fact that all the mothers we’ve worked with have told us that, despite months of worrying, they actually enjoyed giving their speech on the day. So let’s work on how to avoid the months of worrying…

Mother of the Bride speech etiquette

Don’t get tied down with traditional speech etiquette, as long as you’re polite and loving, no one really cares if you address them as ‘ladies and gentlemen’ (in fact it seems overly formal if you do).

The biggest trap mothers fall into is thinking they need to thank people. Actually that’s the groom’s job. That said, it pays to mention your daughter’s new-in laws.

Do NOT get sucked into thanking your friends or family members who’ve travelled far. It’s not your day and, quite frankly, too many thank yous becomes boring. Remember the bridesmaids will be thanked by the groom (and most likely, the best man) so keep it concise if you do!

Nail your mother of the bride speech

The structure of a mother of the bride speech is the same as a father of the bride speech. Here’s the idea…

  1. Welcome all the guests and get them laughing straight away
  2. Tell some funny anecdotes from your daughter’s childhood (ideally illustrating qualities that everyone will recognise in her today)
  3. Pay tribute to the woman she is today. The good stuff, the lovely stuff, but most importantly, the funny
  4. Recount meeting the groom for the first time and how you’ve grown to love him and his family (it helps if there’s an element of truth in there although it’s not compulsory)
  5. You may want to offer some funny or heart-warming advice to the married couple. Nothing too profound or pompous.
  6. Conclude your speech with a toast to the married couple.

5 mother of the bride speech tips

Mother of the Bride Speech - Do's and Don'ts


Start writing your speech – Obvious but honestly, ideas will keep popping into your head once you start.

Get help – Other family members are a great source of good material. Organise a catch up and think about all the funny things your daughter has done over the years.

Feel free to use clever quotes – Ensure you credit the author or someone else will!

Toast something meaningful – Ideally it should reflect the personality of the newlyweds and the theme of your speech. One of the fathers we worked with wished his daughter and her husband ‘the passion of Burton and Taylor, the longevity of Elizabeth and Philip and the bank balance of Kanye and Kim’

Practise your speech and film it on your phone – Watch it back and spot where your speech can be improved.


Hint at any financial contribution you’ve made towards the wedding – May embarrass the newlyweds and it’s up to them to mention it.

Talk about your daughter’s exes – Again, that embarrassment thing. Even if you know your daughter would be cool with it, her husband may not be.

Resort to cliches – Really? You want to waste crucial time telling us how little she slept as a newborn?

Talk over laughter. You’ve worked hard for those laughs – don’t rush them. Always wait until your guests have settled down before continuing with your speech.

Be afraid to use cue cards – Try to memorise the speech but don’t be afraid to use notes on the day (your brain will be scrambled).

Mother of the Bride Speech Help

Speechy is here to help mothers in need. As professional TV scriptwriters we’re programmed to entertain and get the best out of people. We sweat the hard stuff so you don’t have to.

Contact Us if you want a natter about how we can help you write your mother of the bride speech.

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