It’s really difficult to know how to write a wedding speech remembering loved ones, but please don’t put yourself in the position of giving a speech where you get overly emotional and have to stop, or the bride or groom start sobbing. Of course everyone understands there is someone missing but there are plenty of ways to pay tribute to a loved one without including a eulogy as part of the happy day.
If the person in question is a close relative or has recently died, one idea may be to pay a more substantial tribute to them in a pre-wedding dinner the night prior to the wedding. This allows the emotion to flow before anyone needs to worry about their mascara.
On the actual day, the wedding party want to remember the loved one with a smile on their face, so think of nice touches people will associate with them. Could your favours be homemade jam made with you gran’s recipe? Could the tables be decorated with pots of Forget-me-Nots in honour of your green-fingered friend?
You could also acknowledge your loved one in the Order of Service. For example…
‘James and Victoria are so pleased you could join them in this special place on this special day. Of course there are some very special people who can’t be with us today but Vicky’s dear father is certainly in our hearts and we’re sure he will be looking down on us today and joining in the fun.’
Rather than somber or sad, our advice is to be creative and thoughtful.