Rule 1- Be different
Yes, every bride is beautiful, yes every bride is intelligent, hard-working and kind – but what makes her unique?
She may be wearing a princess dress for the day but that doesn’t mean that she is one. You love her for who she is and so does everyone in the room. Celebrate that.
Call her out for nacho-munching, overly-competitive, library-loving nerd she is!
Rule 2- Be funny
People expect the best man to be funny, but no one ever left a wedding thinking “I wish the speeches had been a bit less amusing”.
We all know you were very proud of how well she did in her GCSE’s, but unless there is a funny story attached, save that observation for another time.
We suggest a mix of about 70% humour with about 30% heartfelt and sincere. Of course, if her father has recently passed away this may not be possible.
Rule 3- Tell a story
The best speeches take us on a journey. They aren’t just a collection of ‘to dos’ and a list of random anecdotes.
Your speech needs a thread that connects everything you’re saying. It could be what you’ve learnt from the bride over the years (from a secret appreciation of Justin Bieber’s back-catalogue to how to cheat at Scrabble). It could be your guide to the groom re how your niece works.
Rule 4- Less is more
Edit, edit, edit.
You’ve known the bride since she was a baby so there may be many things you want to say. But don’t!
You don’t have to recognise every era of the bride’s life. In fact, some of the best wedding speeches just focus on one really good story.
We suggest you aim for about 7 minutes tops and about 1100-1200 words should be your upper limit. You can tell everyone all the stories you had to cut at the bar later.
Rule 5- Be prepared to deliver
Will there be a mic? How many people will be in the room? Do you want a full script or just some notes?
Remember, the wonderful, heartfelt, funny words you have written will need to be spoken out loud at some point, so practice! What looks good on paper can sometimes come out as a tongue twister.
Speak slowly, and don’t forget to smile. Everyone there wants you to do well, so enjoy the moment. Read our How To Deliver Like A Pro blog for further advice.